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Ways to the self

I am a psychotherapist who uses several modalities and ways to help you to reconnect with ALL of YOU working with the body, feelings, mind and soul.

I have come a long way to become a therapist. I was brought up in a small village in the west of Hungary. As a child I once had a dream to live in Budapest, that beautiful city. When it came true, when I was about 22, I started work as a teacher. I loved working with kids. Unfortunately, at that time teaching was not enough to support me financially so I moved into business life. I worked in close relation with people in various positions, supporting them in their development and aspirations, for 6 years. Gradually though, I realized I did not want just to help make companies richer – I wanted to have more impact on how people think and live. During this time, too, another dream awoke in me: to live abroad and to work on my self, to get to know who I am, where I come from, and what my mission in life is. I went into therapy. It has been more than 20 years now since I decided, yes, I want to be a therapist. But how?

Life took me to Amsterdam, where another dream came true, but it was a time to start everything from scratch, leaving behind a stable job, family and friends and all that gave me a feeling of security. In this new environment I experienced a lot of frustration, isolation and a sort of crisis I had never experienced before. I did not know who I was any more. So I started therapy again – and my therapist happened to be a psychosynthesis therapist, in fact, the one who most inspired me to become a therapist like him as well. And at that point my close relationship with psychosynthesis psychotherapy began. My motivation has never stopped; on the contrary, with the passing of years it has become stronger. Yes, this is what I want; to work as a psychotherapist.

For almost 20 years now I have been practicing in Belgium. I am a 57-year-old Hungarian, divorced and have a wonderful 19-year-old son. I work in English and Dutch besides my Hungarian mother tongue.

My studies

I have a diploma as a teacher, 1985 Hungary

I am a certified psychosynthesis psychotherapist, 2007 Psychosynthese Studies Nederland

I am a member of the Belgian Association of Psychotherapists

Integrative Psychotherapy, 2019 Gent, Belgium
Holder of ECP – The European Certificate of Psychotherapy
Breathwork facilitator – 2023 – Alchemy of Breath
Embodiment Coach
EMDR Therapist

People approach me searching for the answers to such questions:

Do you feel your life is incomplete?
Do you feel lonely, and that nobody understands you?
Do you ever think about who you really are?
What is important in life and what is your goal?
Are you experiencing a crisis?
Do you have problems in your relationship?
Do you feel that others direct your life?
Are you bored in your work either because it is not challenging anymore, or because you escape into work?
Do you find it impossible to relax?
Do you live in the present moment, or do you always look ahead, or back in time?
Are there things that can make you passionate, or have you got the feeling of being burned-out?
Is it difficult for you to breathe? Do you pay attention at all to your breath?

My services

psychotherapy

Psychosynthesis is not only a depth psychology but it is also a way of life.

Breathwork

Breathwork is a tool in finding the path to yourself.

There are many types of breathworks offered today.

The main goal of my work has been to help clients acquire consciousness and a deep knowledge of their inner selves. Among other things I am eager to give support to my clients to become in balance with their own Selves and with their environment, to develop the courage to exist with an open heart, to be able to look at the beauties of life, to learn from difficulties, to embrace the past, to regard life as a gift, and to live in the present.

I work with the body, the feelings, the mind and the soul. My work is motivated by love and by the belief that we all have the potentials to live a fuller and more harmonious life.

– I work with adults and I do couple therapy as well

– I rarely work with children under the age of 15

Giving meaning to pain

We all have pain. Some never want to face this fact and run away into various activities, bad habits or addictions. The gains of these cannot last long. I believe that pain has a function in life. Once we confront it we can realize that it is not necessary to escape. The more we escape pain the stronger it comes back. Learning to give space to pain, no matter what kind, makes us connect with our Selves on a very deep level; we have never experienced before. It is also true that the deeper we dare to go in pain the higher we can get, we can experience true qualities like authentic love, beauty and harmony with life.

Testimonials

„I began therapy with Monika around the time of the COVID outbreak. I had just turned 60 and can honestly say my life was in such a mess that I had no idea it was even a mess. I thought everybody was driven by circumstances, anger, hurt and misplaced duty: furthermore I thought being driven like this was „natural”. I had no idea that the roots of my behavior, emotions and understanding could be gently uncovered and explored. I never dreamed that I could call my life my own. I never knew I could rediscover the joy that is every person’s birthright, or take control of my own life – by losing my fear of what others thought and recognizing and addressing my repetitive patterns. About a month ago, I left Monika’s and felt the sun on my neck and the warm breeze on my face. I felt something completely new to me…GRATITUDE. I was no longer condemned to „suffer my life”. Thank you Monika, I owe you much in this process of re-birth.”

J.D.

„I heard about Monika just at the right time when I decided to ask for professional help. I needed to find answers to certain questions about myself. She helped me to work on my selfconfidence and we found explanation to situations that I felt confused about during that period of my life. We analysed together these situations and I manged to better understand my reactions and it helped me to change my approach to them and to see clearer. Monika always asked me the right questions so that I could search for the right answers inside me. I still often think of our sessions and I remember the thoughts and lessons that I learned and they still serve me as guidance.”

T.S.

„Before meeting Monika, I had undergone therapy for over 7 years and yet I continued to agonize over my past pains wrought with sexual, physical and emotional abuse. In a space of 13 months, Monika assisted me to confront my past traumas in a safe and loving environment, allowing me to feel the anger, fear and sadness so long denied or suppressed. Fully embracing my past allowed me to recognize my inner child, grow my adult self and tune in with the present. As a result I find myself naturally more genuine in my relationship with my family, friends and colleagues, and have set on the path to a new career that I’m passionate about. I’m finally in charge of my own life!”

Khaled K.

Work with me

My mission is to make you feel seen, heard, understood , and received by empathy and unconditional positive regard. Things that most of us did not receive as children. These are in fact my strengths. It is also a strength to ask for help in difficult times. I support you to discover the empathic will for your own self in the authentic connection between us. The sort of will that is kind and loving & you can relax into it like into a big hug and gives you wings because it is safe.

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